Guideline to mending a broken heart.
We have all been there.
We are in a relationship one moment and then the relationship falters and disolves and we find ourselves heart broken.
How do you deal with broken heart?
Having had my share of experiences... I come to realize that no matter what caused our hearts to break, the feelings of loss can be the same.
Heartache tends to make us feel heavy inside, an empty and sad feeling that seems to take our breaths away.
Most everyone says we should "share our feelings."
I totally agree - I've found that sharing one's feelings with someone we trust, someone who may recognize what we're going through will help you feel better.
What are we to do? Here's my road map to mending a broken heart.
Start by talking over all the things you are feeling, venting and allowing your emotions to release.
Having a good cry funnels more of the sadness out of our system.
My Viejita always said, "Tears cleansed the soul."
To help with the healing process get out and do some of the things you normally enjoy, like taking your dogs out on a long walk, going to the park and taking in a game of freesbie golf or maybe going to see a movie... anything simple and enjoyable that will take your mind off the hurt.
Next try and go through a mental list of all the positive things about you.
I mean list everything that's positive and good about you.
Sometimes a broken heart will put us in a funk - and may even get us thinking that somehow we are to blame for all that's happened.
It will cause you to really be down on yourself, even exaggerating the fault as though we did something to deserve the unhappiness we're now experiencing.
If you find that you are experiencing this symptom right this moment, STOP!
Remember to keep reminding yourself of all of your good qualities and if your broken heart is clouding your view, get someone close or your friends to remind you.
Now is the opportune time to be extra kind to yourself.
To take good care of yourself. Pamper yourself. Spend some money on you.
A broken heart can be very stressful so don't let the rest of your body get broken too.
Make sure you get lots of sleep, eat healthy foods and get moving... exercise as much as you can to minimize the stress and depression.
As an added bonus you'll find that a few less pounds will also give your self-esteem a boost.
Going through a break-up can be tough but you will need to get some of those raw emotions out.
I also know that this is another tough one for us guys, but there's no shame in crying.
Dont worry no one has to see you cry if you rather they didn't.
If you feel like crying try finding a place where you can be alone.
There is no shame in crying.
Keep yourself busy. Keep moving forward. Upward and onward.
Sometimes this is difficult when you're coping with sadness and grief, but it really helps.
That doesn't mean you shouldn't think about what you're feeling.
Working things through in our minds is all part of the healing process.
Give yourself time. It takes time for sadness to go away.
Almost everyone thinks they won't feel normal again, but the human spirit is amazing and the heartbreak always heals in time.
But how long will that take?
That depends on what caused your heartbreak, how you deal with loss and how quickly you tend to bounce back from things.
Getting over a break-up can take a couple of weeks and even a few months.
Please don't drink or self medicate to escape from the reality of your loss - it may numb the pain, but the feeling will only be temporary. And who needs the added morning after, hang over feeling anyways.
Beside's when you resort to these options, you're not dealing with the pain, only masking it... which prolongs the heart break and the sadness.
If your sadness is so deep or lasts too long you may need some extra support.
If you don't start to feel better after a few weeks or continue to feel depressed, you may need to talk to a counselor or therapist.
Most importantly - be patient with yourself and give yourself time for the healing to begin.
There will be a day when you wake up and you will be healed of your broken heart.
I've been there and can say taking these steps were helpful to me.
Make it a great dia!